Love Yourself

I am so tired of seeing and hearing from men and women complain about the same thing in their relationships. I cannot keep writing about the same issues in relationships. Although it makes me money & I always keep it real with all my readers. It becomes tiring to answer emails on the same matter. It makes me wonder when you will say: Enough!

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  Tip One: Why are you asking the same question for years? If your partner continues to cheat on you. He/She are not to blame; you are, for continuing to take them back. They are not the issue. You have to seriously look deep into yourself and understand why you allow yourself to be manipulated into this type of relationship. Those types of people who continuously cheat will never stop because they know they can keep coming back to you because you accept it. They will lie to your face and tell you “They’re mentally messed up in the head”. They will tell you “how sorry they are, how much they love you and will never do it again.” They will behave great by putting you on a pedestal and make you feel like they’re willing to change. A few days/weeks/months later they’re cheating on you again. There you are crying all over again. Who is to blame? No one but you. Everyone deserves to be loved but you should love yourself enough to know what you’re worth. If you keep accepting the same person you truly do not have any self respect. You have to find out why and make changes for yourself to not accept anything less than you deserve.

• Tip Two: It’s always the same as above. If you know you have someone who doesn’t respect you. A person who cheats on you, lies to you, steals from you, abuses you (mentally or physically). Get away and stay away from them. Life is short and you need to stop wasting your time on someone who doesn’t see what you’re worth. No matter what stories they tell you. 

• Tip Three: Please stop waiting for a knight/princess to come save you. When you love & put yourself first the right person will come into your life. This will happen when you least expect it. If you keep switching from relationship to relationship none will ever work out because you’re too busy worrying and wanting someone to love you. Who is going to love you; when you don’t love yourself?

• Tip Four: If alcohol and drugs are involved in your toxic relationship; that alone is the problem. It’s bad enough you clearly have issues when you accept a narcissist in your life yet alone one who has alcohol/drugs addictions is even worse. Run away & stay away from them. The substance abuse will always affect the so-called relationship. The use of substances will always come first before you do. When the interaction with the use changes their behavior; it will always result in arguments, (temporary breakups because of your insecurities) and possible police involvement, etc, etc. All for what? A person with a substance abuse habit does not know how to love; they will only ever love themselves and do what they love to do; abuse.

• Tip Five: Do not settle for anything less than what you want and deserve from someone. If you want that unconditional, everlasting, passionate, respectful, loyal, devoted kind of love; stop looking for it! When you put yourself first and trust in love it will come to you. Until then everyone that comes by with all the behavior mentioned above are just manipulators & users.

Trust in yourself to know and accept what is right and wrong. Do not fall for the lies because that always comes with heartache, mental anguish, financial loss & you're left with absolutely nothing but the clothes on your back.

I understand this may be harsh for some to read. Like I have said numerous times. I am NOT a therapist. I speak from personal experiences from my life, and all the lives I have seen broken into shattered pieces. I have also seen lives that have been rebuilt and given a love they will forever cherish.

So, yes love does hurt, love can feel great but is definitely and always worth the wait. ALWAYS remember the love that matters the most begins from within.

As always, Keeping it real. Till Next Time. )0(